disability – My Life In A Chair

Why I LOVE Myself (pt2)

Ify sat laughing in his chair. He is wearing a pink hoodie with blue sleeves and a black hood down behind his neck. Some shelves with figurines, some folders, stationary and a sign for his website "mylifeinachair.com" are visible in the background as well as an open door leading out to a yellow lit corridor.

“But my most significant step forward yet would come from something I once thought would cause me more pain than joy. Thankfully, I was wrong…”

Why I LoveD Myself (pt1)

A young Ify smiling and holding some rice to his mouth with a pair of chopsticks.

“… I now know that what had actually happened was just that I started living my life for myself and not for the imaginary standards I thought I was being judged by.”

It Has Been 15 Years: This Is What I’ve Learned

Ify sits smiling at the camera wearing a navy blue Hawaiian shirt in a Spanish café while on holiday. The top of his full beer mug sits on a table in front of him partially out of frame.

This Friday will mark 15 years since the day my life changed forever. It’s been a while since I wrote specifically for the anniversary of the accident, and this year would have been no different. However, I was filling out a form a couple of weeks ago and had to specify what major surgeries I’veContinue reading “It Has Been 15 Years: This Is What I’ve Learned”

Living With Carers: Making It Work

Young female caregiver in casualwear tying shoelaces of African American man with disability sitting in wheelchair in living room

Yesterday, a friend asked how I go about trying to live a normal life with very little space to myself. They were referring to the fact that I’ve now lived in care for 15 years. By that, I mean I have required physical assistance from another person to carry out one or more daily tasksContinue reading “Living With Carers: Making It Work”

Travels

It’s been a while, I’ve been all around. Here’s some of what I’ve been up to.

The Grass Isn’t Always Greener

Sometimes I get lost thinking how things could’ve been different, but not in the way you might think.

Yesterday Doesn’t Have to Determine Tomorrow

Yes, spinal-cord injury is hard. But like so many other things in all our lives, it is just one of a myriad of past experiences that I live with in the present and doesn’t have to stop me from flourishing in the future.

Putting Myself First

Putting my well-being first has meant not being able to write, record or post as much content as I’d like… and I’m okay with that 😊

A Dream And Nothing More

Just a dream I once had. It was surreal and yet so real, unexplainable yet totally understandable, joyful and yet painful. You know, like most dreams… but not.

Don’t Give Up On Tomorrow Because Of Today’s Struggles

Sometimes the best parts of you can only be seen by those who love you. Don’t shut them out, You’ll be surprised what they have to show you.